Wednesday, February 15, 2012

One Wedding, Million Questions

Almost, 2 months into marriage, and I am still being asked the same questions. I am beginning to get a little wary of answering them with a smile.

Also, I want to keep a record of the things I need to ask acquaintances who recently got married/ are going to get married in the near future, so that I am not bitten again with the dumb mute-bug. They may think I am being rude if I don’t ask them the ‘appropriate’ questions, won't they? So here goes....

1) How did it go? / Kaisi rahi shaadi?
- People, it wasn’t an exam. I can’t say whether it was good or bad or how much I am going to score.
If you are asking me whether things went smoothly or not, they did.
If you are asking me whether I am happy with my decision or not, I am.
My wedding went the way it was supposed to, and I hope that my marriage goes the way I expect it to. Period.

2) Kaisa lag raha hai shaadi ke baad ? :-|
- Well, to be honest, not very different. I don’t feel like I am married or that anything has changed. It is as independent as a live-in relationship and as accountable as a marriage ought to be. I just feel more loved and I am happy about the decision I made. So, change that :-| smiley to a :-) smiley, will ya?

3) Enjoyed?
- What? My wedding? The food? Not really. I didn’t get to eat even half the things that were on the menu. We were overstuffed with sweets. And this is one thing I am really going to regret for long, because I have been told by so many people that the food at the wedding was wonderful. I still have people coming back and asking me who the caterers were and sometimes the names of items of the feast. Sorry, I am clueless.

4) What did you do on your first night?
- And it’s your business to know because?

5) Did you cry?
- Off course I did. Its customary, to cry :P

6) You got married so early. We never expected it from you. How come?
- Well, I found the person I was and am happy with. Whoever puts off happiness for later? With the world coming to an end and all that, kya pata kal ho na ho? ;)

7) Will you quit your job, now that you are married?
- Why? Is marriage another kind of job that I need to quit my current one? We are in the same city. Neither of us is relocating. And I haven’t found a better job yet, so no. If you thought that the marriage was the defining line of my independence, then you cannot be more wrong. Relocating, finding a better job, going onsite or somewhere for higher studies would be the right reasons to quit, wouldn’t they be?

So next time you meet me, you know what not to ask ;-)