But, I am only 24

When somebody in office hits on you, that too when you have been too busy to look at the mirror for months, it is a reminder of sorts. It reminds you that you are still young, and that people still find you attractive. It is also a realization, that when people don’t know that you are married, they are more open and generous with their compliments and attention.

I was amused that it happened, again. Off-course, there were people in office who flirted, but that kind of got into control once I declared I was engaged. And once I got married, it just stopped. Period.

There is something with Indian men; they somehow equate complimenting with flirting. Maybe, it’s because of our culture or rather what we call as culture (but that’s a different track altogether, another post, another day, hopefully soon).

But, the point remains, that men stop complimenting women once they become out of reach, so to say.

It is very hard to come by a:

You look wonderful.

Or

That dress makes you look hot.

Or even a simple

B.E.A.utiful

And that is why we, women, become more and more awkward with accepting compliments gracefully. Oh! But the joy of knowing that you can still make people turn their heads is something. To hell with asking your partner, “How do I look?”

Bask in the warmth of a compliment not fished for, one that is bestowed unexpectedly, oh ladies. Bask in it.

I had forgotten I am only 24, till somebody tried hitting on me. Marriage with all its pretending-to-be-grown-up, kind of makes you forget that. And 24 is definitely a young place to be :D

Twice in two days and I am on a high! Yay!

One Wedding, Million Questions

Almost, 2 months into marriage, and I am still being asked the same questions. I am beginning to get a little wary of answering them with a smile.

Also, I want to keep a record of the things I need to ask acquaintances who recently got married/ are going to get married in the near future, so that I am not bitten again with the dumb mute-bug. They may think I am being rude if I don’t ask them the ‘appropriate’ questions, won't they? So here goes....

1) How did it go? / Kaisi rahi shaadi?
- People, it wasn’t an exam. I can’t say whether it was good or bad or how much I am going to score.
If you are asking me whether things went smoothly or not, they did.
If you are asking me whether I am happy with my decision or not, I am.
My wedding went the way it was supposed to, and I hope that my marriage goes the way I expect it to. Period.

2) Kaisa lag raha hai shaadi ke baad ? :-|
- Well, to be honest, not very different. I don’t feel like I am married or that anything has changed. It is as independent as a live-in relationship and as accountable as a marriage ought to be. I just feel more loved and I am happy about the decision I made. So, change that :-| smiley to a :-) smiley, will ya?

3) Enjoyed?
- What? My wedding? The food? Not really. I didn’t get to eat even half the things that were on the menu. We were overstuffed with sweets. And this is one thing I am really going to regret for long, because I have been told by so many people that the food at the wedding was wonderful. I still have people coming back and asking me who the caterers were and sometimes the names of items of the feast. Sorry, I am clueless.

4) What did you do on your first night?
- And it’s your business to know because?

5) Did you cry?
- Off course I did. Its customary, to cry :P

6) You got married so early. We never expected it from you. How come?
- Well, I found the person I was and am happy with. Whoever puts off happiness for later? With the world coming to an end and all that, kya pata kal ho na ho? ;)

7) Will you quit your job, now that you are married?
- Why? Is marriage another kind of job that I need to quit my current one? We are in the same city. Neither of us is relocating. And I haven’t found a better job yet, so no. If you thought that the marriage was the defining line of my independence, then you cannot be more wrong. Relocating, finding a better job, going onsite or somewhere for higher studies would be the right reasons to quit, wouldn’t they be?

So next time you meet me, you know what not to ask ;-)

Did you know - Love can make your Roti's go round ?

Somebody was right when somebody said that love makes the world go round. :)

It does make mine go round. Sometimes it is because it makes me swoon when I am in his arms, sometimes because it’s a roller-coaster ride of emotions, one changing to another before I can figure out how exactly I feel, sometimes because time goes by very quickly..

But, did you know that Love can make your chapatis go round too :D

I don’t mean round as in when you roll them out from the dough. I mean round as in when they blow up like a perfect balloon on the pan (without putting them in the fire). 3 days of cooking, and not one parantha gone wrong. All of them bloated up perfectly without losing heart half way. Yay!! Why is it a big thing? I have known how to make rotis/paranthas atleast for about 4-5 years now. Getting the shape right is child’s play, but getting them to bloat up like mums’ is a BIG thing. Never till date have ALL my rotis made in a single batch bloated up perfectly. Some would. Some would just pretend to and then deflate midway.

It’s a record made, rotis made in 6 batches in the last 3 days, have all looked like this:

*Joey dance* :D

And that's me making the Paranthas:

I am so proud of myself :)